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Hi Bess

So sorry to learn of Jake’s passing and for your loss. Jake and I would email time to time as we both were in MCLA-158 at UCSD and shared Dr Sacco. We last emailed July 8 and consistent with Jake’s helping he talked about TScan and that he was trying to get into SeaGyn. I have been fortunate to get through many big challenges but the disease continues to be relentless. I really appreciate both of you as your investigative work has benefited myself and will benefit many for years to come. I also say congratulations on your baby. All the best.

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Sorry for your loss 🙏

Thank you for sharing this soulful journey…❤️

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Such beautiful, tender words. Thank you for sharing this window into your experience at such a raw moment. Sending love 🙏❤️

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I'm so sorry. Thank you so much for sharing your relationship and experiences with Jake with us so beautifully for so long. I don't know you, but I hope kindness and softness find you when you need them. ❤️

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Your words tinge my heart with sadness, a bravery unmatched - the wonderful love.

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Oh, Bess. I'm so, so sorry. Thank you for writing. Sending you and Athena and ocean of love and support in this time of grief. ❤️❤️❤️❤️

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I feel your love for your family so profoundly. I feel your loss and sorrow too.

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I read this with a broken heart even though I know it was coming from reading your previous posts. I cannot imagine your heartbreak, and I am also in awe at your love. It must be so hard. I’m so sorry

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❤️‍🩹

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He is in every word - was, is, will be. Forever in present tense.

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Elizabeth Kublier-Ross: "“The reality is that you will grieve forever. You will not ‘get over’ the loss of a loved one; you will learn to live with it. You will heal and you will rebuild yourself around the loss you have suffered. You will be whole again but you will never be the same. Nor should you be the same nor would you want to.”

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I am so sorry Bess.

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My deepest condolences 🕊️ this is truly heartbreaking

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Thank you for this moment of pure love and blistering pain. It's the duality those of us get to experience when we've had a lifelong love. I wish you gentleness as you traverse this new space.

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I am sorry for your loss. I am new to your site, this is only my second time here. And in only two posts, it's clear to me how blessed you were to have loved and been loved by Jake. Sending prayers that you will feel his presence as you move through this heartbreaking time. ❤️

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Aug 19Liked by Bess Stillman

Many hugs go out to you for this great loss. Nothing will replace him, yet please also feel every one of us standing around you in silent awe and honor. Please continue writing about your process as you are able. Jake will live in through your daughter and your words. ❤️💔❤️‍🩹

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